[Sharon]

Post in the online forum your thoughts on the area you need to develop and what you can do to enhance your EI skills.

[Jessica]

There are two main areas I would like to focus on to enhance my emotional intelligence skills. One area that I would benefit from improvement is self regulation. I am confident with my reactions in the moment, and curating appropriate responses when responding to a situation, however, I would benefit from working on controlling how negative feelings and emotions, such as anxiety and stress affect me. I tend to hold in those feelings and it affects how I view myself and my work. Identifying my emotions and triggers is important in order to initiate techniques to work through these feelings.
This relates to the second area of improvement. Working on building self-confidence is also important for me to improve on. It is important to surround myself with supportive people and set practical goals, but also do some things to step outside of my comfort zone. I just recently challenged myself by presenting at a conference. After the presentation I felt confident in my abilities and left feeling inspired.

[Katherine]

I can really relate to what you said about self-regulation and holding in stress or anxiety — I do the same sometimes. It’s great that you’re working on building confidence too. Presenting at a conference is such a big step! That kind of experience really does help you grow and see your strengths.

[Katherine]

After doing the Emotional Intelligence quiz, my results showed that my EI level is “OK.” That means I connect well with some coworkers but can struggle with others at times. Looking at Daniel Goleman’s five elements of EI—self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills—I realized that self-regulation is the area I need to work on most.
When I’m under pressure or things get hectic, I can feel myself reacting quickly instead of taking a step back. I know that as a nurse and future leader, it’s important to stay calm and composed so I can think clearly and support others.
To build my self-regulation skills, I’m planning to:
Take a deep breath or short pause before responding when I feel frustrated.
Use mindfulness techniques to stay grounded during stressful moments.
Ask for feedback from coworkers on how I handle challenging situations.
Reflect after tough shifts to learn what I could do differently next time.
By focusing on this, I think I can strengthen my emotional intelligence overall. It will help me communicate better, handle conflict more effectively, and create stronger, more positive relationships with my team.

[Jessica]

Hi Katherine,
These are all great ideas to improve your self-regulation skills.
It’s great that you are mindful of the fact you need to take a step back before reacting. This can be difficult, especially in high-stress situations.
It’s amazing how focusing on just one thing can actually benefit us in many other areas!

[Anastasia]

Hi Katherine
Thank you for sharing. I struggle with this too. This is an area I feel I am improving in but still need to work on.

[Kayla]

The results from both tests were:
“Your scores indicate that you are doing fairly well. Your self awareness and relationships with others are above average. You have achievements you are proud of, are generally are in a good mood, and see the world in a positive way. There is still room for improvement in all areas and there are times when you feel you are capable of doing/achieving more than you have. By diligently using EI tools you are able to get even more from life.”
“: 35-55
Your emotional intelligence level is… OK. You probably have good relationships with some of your colleagues, but others may be more difficult to work with. The good news is that you have a great opportunity to improve your working relationships significantly. Read more below to boost your EI still further.

I think one thing I feel I can definitely work on is “that i feel i am capable of doing/achieving more than I have” , I often struggle with this as I tend to have a different idea of where I should be and put high expectations on myself, I can help this by making more realistic goals and allowing myself grace on timelines and at times not be so harsh on myself

[Stephanie]

Hi Kayla!

I received a similar result to yours, I also feel that with my lack of confidence it doesn’t allow me to complete and do more as a nurse and a future leader as i know i could be doing. I really agree by starting with more small realistic goal within an appropriate timeline these small wins could improver my own self awareness and confidence as a leader.

[Stephanie]

After completing the EI quiz my score was 3/4 indicating that I am doing Fairly well. My own thoughts on the areas that i need to develop is I have always lacked the self confidence that I am capable to do more then I can, I always think I am not smart enough or I could never further my education due to lack of self esteem always thinking negatively towards myself instead of boosting my own confidence. The EI skills I can use to enhance my score would be Self awareness If i let my lack of confidence show, it may feel to my team that i am unable to provide the right leadership and support.

[Amit Kaur]

Hello Stephanie
Thank you for sharing.I can relate to my past experience. Due to low confidence I used to think the same way that I am not capable of moving further in my career.
Even though I know something is right,I used to ask other nurses(friends) as I was scared to implement.
I met with a wonderful nurse who motivated me that you have the potential to grow, She advised me you do not need to take big courses to do this. Get yourself involved in workshops,in-services and small certificate courses.I am thankful to her.Gaining knowledge,improving nursing skills and interacting with others brings confidence.
All that happens by setting a realistic goal.

[Amit Kaur]

After completing the 1st EI quiz.My result is 3/4 .
It indicates that you are doing fairly well.Yourself awareness and relationship with others are above average. You have achievements you are proud of,are generally in good mood,and see the world in a positive way.There is still room for improvement in all area and there are times when you fell you are capable of doing/achieving more than you have. By diligently using EI tool you are able to get even more from life.

2nd EI test results 50 (35-55)
Your emotional level is …OK. You probably have good relationships with some of your colleagues,but others may be more difficult to work with you.The good news is that you have a great opportunity to improve your working relationships significantly.

I believe everyday we learn something new, big or small,at work or in personal life,Even from other adults,kids,media, etc.
As recommended in EI results,In order to achieve more I should continue to set new goals and continue to look forward to improving.
I must continue to improve my relationships where difficulty by offering support, maintaining calm and taking positive thoughts.

[Tina]

Hi Amit
thankyou for sharing, You are right, everyday we are learning something new.

[Tina]

Your Results
2/4
Your scores indicate that you are struggling somewhat with how you feel, about yourself and your relationships with others. You are aware of this and are likely open to making some changes. The good news is that you can make very significant changes by diligently practicing new positive EI behaviours.
Your score 42
35-55
Your emotional intelligence level is… OK. You probably have good relationships with some of your colleagues, but others may be more difficult to work with. The good news is that you have a great opportunity to improve your working relationships significantly. Read more below to boost your EI still further.

I do recognize my abilities to hold a relationship at times requires work, At this time reading a text on Mood over Mind is something i am working on to further improve my EI. I am a work in progress as that I feel is what life is at times, Progress and Learning and building my ability to stay calm in the face of conflict and to continue to build my self confidence.

[Mauei Caela]

Hi Tina,

I am reading the same book you have mentioned! I have been feeling increase anxiety over the past months to years. My manager has been a very good advocate and always remind us to utilize our resources that work provides. My counselor has given me this book and I am also working improving myself through the activities and exercises it provides me. I agree that it takes progress and learning to keep calm in our type of working environment. It takes time and patience to be able to get the outcome you’ve set to yourself. I do hope that you find this book really helpful!

[Anastasia]

Self-regulation is an area I can continue to grow in. As a nursing supervisor, I often juggle staff concerns, client needs, and unexpected situations all at once. It can be easy to react quickly or make assumptions before I’ve heard everyone’s point of view.

To strengthen my emotional intelligence, I’m working on listening fully and considering all perspectives before responding. I’ve been trying to take a moment to pause, stay calm, and ask questions to better understand each situation. By doing this, I can respond more thoughtfully and set the tone for open, respectful communication within the team.

Improving my self-regulation will help me handle challenges with more patience, support my staff more effectively, and create a positive, solution-focused work environment.

[Loubna]

Great point Anastasia. Considering perspectives before responding is really important to face challenges at work effectively.

[Loubna]

My quiz results shows that I’m doing fairly well. I believe one area I would like to develop is managing pressure more effectively to further enhance my EI skills. Although I rarely let pressure get to me, I sometimes hold my stress inside during busy shifts rather than addressing it right way. To build my emotional intelligence, I plan to be more open about my feelings, use time management strategies and practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. This can help me stay focused, calm and emotionally aware during stressful situations at work.

[Stephanie]

Hi Loubna,
It is so easy sometimes to hold in our stress, but I found it leads to burnout. I think you have a great plan at improving your style for managing pressure. I hope it works for you and improves your EI level.

[Mauei Caela]

As much as I’d like to attain the highest level of EI, I agree with the reading when it says I cannot skip a step in order to master the highest level of EI – emotion management. I want to focus on learning this as this is what I think I needed the most. But I have been shoving my emotions i.e. when I feel like it was unfair to me that my vacation request was denied, but learned that someone less senior than me received the vacation. I wasn’t going to say anything at first as I feel bad that if I speak up, they may remove their vacation and give it to me. I had to convince myself that shoving my feelings will not help me in the long term and bottling up emotions will ended up bursting in the end. Therefore, I’d like to focus more on self-awareness/self-identification. I cannot move on the next steps until I mastered this and listen to my inner voice.

[Miriam]

Hi Mauei Caela,

I can relate with you, in your example. You don’t want to say anything, as you will feel bad for taking something away from another person because of someone else’s mistake, but it is also an unfair situation. We tend to put our needs and feelings aside for others, but we also need to work on our self-esteem as we too deserve things.

[CHUNYAN]

My result is 3/4 . I have a lot of room need to improve my EI skill . My scores indicate that I am doing fairly well. Myself awareness and relationship with others are above average. Generally I am in a good mood and see the world in a positive way. I believe I could do better by using EI tools. I need to think through before I speak up or taking any action. Try to manage pressure from work. Use critical thinking to solving problems. Try to understand others by putting shoes in their position. And get good relationship with co-workers.

[Trudy]

CHUNYAN
Hello Chunyan,
My results were similar to yours. I like how you you are working on thinking first before acting. I agree that taking a moment to pause and really understand the situation is beneficial for all those involved.

[CHUNYAN]

Hello Jessica
I really agree with your opinion. I do believe improving in building self-confidence is very beneficial. I remember one day I am working in the Retirement Home and we just changed systems. Just happened One resident have a min stroke . By the time Paramedics arrived I couldn’t print out the Transfer form and medication record. I called my supervisor and one nurse no one answered. The Paramedic staff is yelling to me and upset . I am so stressed. Finally they have to go . My supervisor called me later and printed the documents and family members brought to hospital. Later my supervisor have a meeting with me. And told me At that time do not be nervous Be confident and told them this is the situation I am facing. I am trying my best to work on it . It is the new system and I haven’t get training of it . I couldn’t print the document. From that experience I learned be confident and calm down in any situation and figuring out the solution.

[Trudy]

My EI scores were:
“3/4 – Your scores indicate that you are doing fairly well. Your self awareness and relationships with others are above average. You have achievements you are proud of, are generally are in a good mood, and see the world in a positive way. There is still room for improvement in all areas and there are times when you feel you are capable of doing/achieving more than you have. By diligently using EI tools you are able to get even more from life.”

“35-55 – Your emotional intelligence level is… OK. You probably have good relationships with some of your colleagues, but others may be more difficult to work with. The good news is that you have a great opportunity to improve your working relationships significantly. Read more below to boost your EI still further.”
My EI score indicates my self awareness and relationships are above average. I do try my best to connect on other people’s level and use active listening. What is also true is that there are many times where I feel I am capable of achieving more but have insecurities that prevent me from doing so. This leads to missed opportunities. This is an area where I aim to improve.

[Stephanie]

My results from the EI quiz was 3/4, but I feel especially of late that I could use some work on my EI. Specifically in areas of self awareness and self management. Self awareness because I have found that I am triggered emotionally by team members constantly being negative. I have noticed that it is constant and repetitive negative comments on a 12 hour shift, and unfortunately it is playing on my emotions to carry out my duties effectively. Self management is going to help me with my self awareness, if I can analyze and accept that this is how these people are, and change it to not effect me and my shift. I am good at not letting it effect how I am with residents but at the end of the day, I am drained emotionally from the toll of constant negativity. It becomes a toxic environment.
Some ways I can improve is to be more positive in my responses to negativity, self reflect on how certain comments have made me feel. I also have to remember that not everyone will see things the way I do, and I will have to accept that.
I really enjoyed this module, it has given me a chance to see where I can improve with my EI. It was a very interesting read.

[Viatcheslav]

Stephanie, I feel what you are saying, as sometimes at work it is not the patients or family members who make our life more difficult, but our own colleagues by what seems their best effort to trigger a negative response from us.

[Viatcheslav]

I have taken both EI quizzes and the results were interesting to see as it showed some areas I need to improve which I haven’t considered before.
My Emotional Intelligence elements which I need to work on are Self-regulation and Self-motivation.
Taking time to pause before responding to either written or verbal stressor is something I need to really focus on in terms of improving my self-regulation element. It is more difficult for me to achieve when the conflict or an unpleasant conversation is happening in person, so working on a skill on how to avoid a reactive response will be beneficial.
In order to improve my self-motivation element, I really should focus on developing self-discipline and work on setting longer-term goals as suggested by the result summary of the quiz.

[Miriam]

My EI quizzes show the following results:

Your scores indicate that you are doing fairly well. Your self awareness and relationships with others are above average. You have achievements you are proud of, are generally are in a good mood, and see the world in a positive way. There is still room for improvement in all areas and there are times when you feel you are capable of doing/achieving more than you have. By diligently using EI tools you are able to get even more from life.

35-55
Your emotional intelligence level is… OK. You probably have good relationships with some of your colleagues, but others may be more difficult to work with. The good news is that you have a great opportunity to improve your working relationships significantly. Read more below to boost your EI still further.

After completing the reading, I realized I tend to let my emotions overtake situations. My self-awareness and self-regulation seem to take turns showing up. When I feel stressed/overwhelmed, I have a hard time refocusing my attention to the task at hand, or just moving on to the next thing as my emotions take over. I also second-guess my own knowledge as I’m afraid to make the wrong decision or upset someone. More like imposter syndrome, I suppose.
I need to be able to separate my self-doubt and other feelings, build my confidence.

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